This entry is steered towards the guys. I’m sure almost every guy had had this dilemma.

To be, or not to be.

That is . . .

Whether to be a Mr. Nice Guy, or not to be.

I’m writing this cos I’m one of those girls who prefer Mr. Nice Guy (let’s put it as MNG), rather than Mr. Bad Guy (MBG).

And so now, what you’re reading is from the point of view of a girl who believes that MNGs does not finishes last. And that NOT ALL girls prefer MBGs.

My sistas and I once had a conversation, or shall I say more like a debate, on this issue with a couple of guys from our class.

There’s a couple of MNGs in my class, and they’ve been trying to get to know more girls, and preferably get a steady girlfriend. But it seems like Lady Luck is not on their side.

Obviously, seeing their MBG friends getting all the chicks, I guess they start to question their own niceness and gentlemanliness.

Introducing . . .

‘A’ - a really nice dude who’s full of gentlemanliness, looks good, had the height, tidy appearance, and sometimes kind of funny.

‘W’ – a really sweet guy who doesn’t mind listening to your problems and sharing his advices or opinions with you. Humorous and gentlemanly. Has passion when it comes to doing things.

‘H’ – a rather quiet guy who plays piano, can sing well, is tall, and full of gentlemanliness. Decent chap.

‘J’ – a decently cute guy who’s funny and doesn’t mind doing favors for others. Very humble and down-to-earth.

‘R’ – a super nice guy who’s smart, good looking, gentlemanly and kind of cool. (not from my class but a friend of mine)

They sound too good to be true? Well they are!

Obviously they have flaws too but who doesn’t?

I, the perfectionist, have a truckload of flaws!

The point is, they see all those MBGs out there having the best time, getting all the chicks, most of the time having chicks throw themselves at them, seemingly having the easy life, cool icon, stands out in the crowds, the star of the parties.

Well all my MNGs aren’t that bad too! The kind of charm they exudes is TOTALLY different from the MBGs!

In case you’re thinking that I’ve only had eyes for MNGs all my life, you’re wrong.

During my secondary school years, I’m crazy over MBGs.

Why?

Because they are like the coolest thing to have. The ‘IN’ thing. The cool boyfriend, the envy of all girls, the heartthrob.

I’m only seen around the MBGs. Hanging out with them.

I’ve got some MNGs coming after me but I’m not interested cos I’m blind. I know they are the diamonds but I prefer the copper then. I’m obsessed with the fame, and being the envy of those who don’t manage to snag a MBG.

They may be the heartthrobs, but they are also the heartbreakers. And being blind, I didn’t see it.

Ended up?

Learning the hard way.

But I’m thankful that I’ve gone through the I-only-love-MBGs-cos-they-are-oh-so-cool stage. Cos if I have not, I would have missed out on all the diamonds around me now!

I categorize girls who dig MBGs into to 3 groups.

1 – They are still chasing fame and wanting to be cool instead of wanting serious relationships. They are blind right now.

(I’ve got a 23 year old guy friend who dated a 17 year old girl. They ended up breaking up cos he realized that the girl still wanna have fun and is not yet ready for a serious relationship)

2 – They know that the MNGs will still be around so they rather have their fill of fun first before finally turning to the MNGs.

(This is where the problems come up. MNGs starts thinking they will always forever finish last)

3 – They are just born to love only MBGs. They will never dig MNGs. If they do, it’s only for the fun of it.

(I’ve got a couple of girl friends who’s only interested in MBGs. Some may be dating MNGs but they’re two-timing them with MBGs)

Honestly, I doubt I will ever understand should there be MNGs who’s interested in the girls mentioned above. Maybe they are the “exceptions”. Well to each his own then.

Now I’m gonna admit something.

To all MNGs out there . . .

You may not know this, but the truth is that sometimes, girls like me do not approach you guys because, we are actually afraid that we can’t measure up to you. You guys seem too good to be true and we’re just afraid we’re not good enough. We do have inferior complex you know.

It’s not just the guys who worry that they might not be good enough for the girls.

We girls have the same worries too!

Sometimes things might be going fine for a guy and a girl. They might contemplate taking things up a notch, but could end up not doing so, or having one party backing away. This is because we are afraid that we might screw things up and end up losing you as a friend.

Well there are also other reasons as to why one party will back away but that is not the point of my entry today so don’t think about it. Concentrate on what I’m saying.

Thank you.

Hur hur.

Another situation is this.

MNG likes girl, and girl likes MNG. But MNG shows his interest by being nice, attentive and showering her with lots of care and concern. He does not tell her straight in the face of his interest.

At this point, the girl is actually wondering if MNG likes her. He is nice to her and stuff but she starts to wonder if that is just how he treats everyone. She is afraid to voice out her interest as she’s afraid it might be wrong and that she’ll be embarrassed. And the worst she expects is that the relationship between them will end up being weird and that they’ll stop talking.

So sometimes, you just gotta find out what exactly is the root of the problem and then can you set it right.

Honestly, it saddens us to see MNGs turn into MBGs. They starts smoking, clubbing incessantly, spewing profanities, having ONS, picking up girls everywhere they go.

Please don’t change who you are MNGs.

Not being able to get a girlfriend now or being rejected by almost every girl is not the end of the world. It is just that you have yet to meet the fabulous and fantastic girl who is for you. The angel is somewhere out there and she is definitely worth waiting for.

Maybe some of you guys might say that:

“Hey, I’ll just be a MBG and I’ll change back to being the MNG I am when I finally meet her.”

Ask yourself with pure honesty.

Will you really be able to change back after riding the high life?

Why change when it’s dead obvious that it is just not you and that you’re really uncomfortable with being who you are not?

I’ve seen guys who try to be bad-ass but failed miserably and it is so obvious that that is not in their blood.

I’ve made my point (a very long one) and hopefully, it provides a fresh perspective to you MNGs out there.

Remember.

There are girls out there (ME ME ME) who totally dig guys like you.

P.S. Obviously there are MNGs out there who are also half MBGs deep down. But I’m not including them. I’m only talking about the MNG of MNGs.